When Your Friends Pass Away

Two weeks ago, the son of one of my husband’s best friends, called him to tell DH that his father had passed away. DH’s best friend died from two blocked arteries resulting in a massive heart attack. He was on his boat at the time when it happened and was airlifted to a nearby local hospital. He never made it. He died along the way. This most recent passing of one of DH’s friend was the last one of DH’s childhood friends. All DH’s buddies, that he grew up with from the old neighborhood, are now gone. Most died in their late 50’s; early 60s. In any event, it makes one think about their own mortality and what is the meaning of life.

Yesterday, DH and I had joint doctor’s appointments with our cardiologist. Apparently DH’s medications are working. Doc said DH can fly, continue working (but NOT lift anything more than 15 pounds). I got the usual to lose weight, avoid salt, yada, yada, yada. In other words, the both of us are doing OK. Blood tests were scheduled six weeks from now, medications renewed and a six month follow up visit scheduled.

All of the above brought DH and I to the same conclusion:

Today is the first day of the rest of your life! Make use of it wisely.

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As we were preparing dinner (farm fresh sauteed zucchini, plum tomatoes, onions and garlic in extra virgin olive oil over whole wheat penne’ pasta) hubby and I had a deeply moving conversation.

Recognizing the fragility of life, we mutually decided we were going to forget our pasts, no longer dredge up our mistakes and mishaps and simply concentrate on today and tomorrow. We want to make our retirement years the best years of our life yet. We are going to continue to eat well, sleep well, live well, exercise well and forget all about stress, hardships, grudges and any world discontent.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

We’re going to continue saving towards our goals. Now that DH got the go-ahead to continue working, we can save more, do more and be more. We have a good circle of friends and family around us. DH is glad that he was able to move out of the old neighborhood and onto a better, more meaningful life. We don’t know how long the two of us will always be together. We just know we want to be together for as long as we can.

We’ve got several RV adventures planned all of which take place on a beach. We may live in the mountains but we’re beach bums at heart.





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