I’m Leaving This Space

Blogging is dead. We all know that now. Other social media streams are in and personally, I’ve been blogging since 2007 and I don’t want to do it anymore. I’m happily retired now. Hubby and I are picking out our new place where we want to officially retire. I don’t want to share my financial secrets with anybody anymore.

The truth is that I’m really a rich person who likes to live a top shelf life at bottom shelf prices. That’s me in a nutshell. I tried to live low income but it didn’t work out. That’s not who I am.

Yesterday I went to Kay Jewelers and after 37 years of marriage I made my husband buy me a wedding ring. We’ve been together since 1983 and I got married using my deceased mothers wedding ring. That always bothered me because I never wore my mothers ring again. There were always other priorities and other financial obligations getting in the way. Hubs never bought me a wedding ring.

I broke down crying in the store when I found a wedding ring I loved and fit me perfectly. Naturally of course the ring was a discontinued style and heavily discounted. The ring was originally $1300 but on sale for $600. That’s me. Top shelf at bottom shelf prices. My husband bought me the ring and all the salespeople in the store came over to give me a hug. It was pathetic and sad at the same time.

Right after I bought the ring, I walked across the roadway and went to Dooney & Bourke.  I was there a few weeks ago looking at all the designer handbags. Checking them out also on HSN concluding that the factory store had the best deals. I’ve never purchased a designer handbag. Ever. My daughter worked for Kate Spade and I got all her tossaways. What a lucky mother I was. Not anymore. I found me a $328 handbag marked down to $131 and at almost 70 years old, I bought me my first gorgeous designer handbag, again top shelf quality at bottom shelf pricing.

After these  very moving life-changing purchases, hubs and I stopped at an Italian restaurant and I had an expensive cappuccino and cannoli. No more .49 cent senior coffee.  I wanted the real thing!

A few weeks ago I purchased designer threads for myself from Chico’s (they specialize in zaftig women, which let’s face it, that’s what I am). And of course, again, I bought top shelf quality clothing at bargain basement pricing. Everything was nearly 60% off.

I called up my sister and invited her and my BIL to meet us for lunch at Costa d’Este (click here), the beachfront luxury Resort and spa owned by Gloria Estefan on The Treasure Coast in Vero Beach. Rooms at the resort start at $425 and drinks are the most expensive on the strip. The Estefans, however, are smart business people and know many wealthy retirees reside in Vero. Like me, they want top shelf quality at bottom shelf pricing and offer this great menu during the week: the $12 special

$12 Lunch Features
Available Monday – Friday | 11 am – 3 pm No Substitutions or Sharing
Tax & Gratuity Not Included
Sandwiches
Served with French Fries or House Salad
Ropa Vieja Melt
Swiss Cheese, Pickles, Sourdough Bread
Chicken Salad Croissant Sandwich
Celery, Grapes, Mayonnaise, Carrots, Tomato, Lettuce, Croissant
Cuban Pork Burrito
Mojo Pork, Black Beans, White Rice, Mojo, onions, salsa Fresca, wheat tortilla

Mains: Grilled Scottish Salmon Quinoa Bowl
Cucumber, Tomato, Red Onion, Corn, Romaine, Citrus Vinaigrette
**Consuming raw seafood, shellfish or eggs may increase your risk of foodborne illness. 18% service charge added to parties of 8 or more.

The final straw for me came when hubby and I discussed finally moving down to Florida, as we always wanted to do.  It failed so many times I had given up. This time, however was different. We had experience on our side. We knew exactly what we wanted: a stand-alone home, no gated community, no HOA fees with enough room around all our sides so we wouldn’t be bothered by cigarette smoking neighbors and as near enough to the beach as possible. There was a battle however between hubs and me. He wanted to go rich. I wanted to go cheap.

All our previous neighborhoods were rich. We’ve always lived rich. This time I wanted to go cheaper. In the end however, try as I might, I just couldn’t do it anymore.  I wanted my top shelf life.  Who was I fooling? Vero Beach was calling our names. We’re going rich.

I understand now why rich people keep up this facade.  It’s just too depressing to go any other way. I’ve been living like this ever since I got my first dollar to spend. I didn’t want to do the hard work that went along with being rich. I wanted to live like a millionaire the easy way. Thus my continual bargain basement shopping. I always felt I was beating the system.

My kids are married and settled. Hubby got a good bill of health from his cardiologist. I know our days are numbered. I don’t want to waste another second. I want to be who I was meant to be. At least I learned that much on this current excursion.

This is my last blog post. In a few days I am going to take my blog down forever. My photography will remain. I bought me an $1100 new iPhone Max Pro 11 and I’ll still be taking great photos of my life journey.  I just won’t be speaking or writing anymore.

I’m retired. I’m done.

51 comments

  1. WOW! Quite a turn of events. Congrats on treating yourself to several things that you decided were important! Congratulations on your final retirement home and settling into the remainder of life. I wish you well!

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  2. Well I understand and will miss your blog so if if you stay I’ll be happy or if you go private consider me. I don’t usually comment but things you say resonate with me. I’m still trying to figure out who I am and how I fit in this retirement scene at 66. I’m not broke as I have a good retirement income stream but I did poorly at setting things aside which I’m still so angry at myself for. So working at that and actually have more trouble treating myself. Good for you for the ring, the purse ….. life is too short.

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  3. First Sharon and now you? Sorry to see this, Cindi. I have enjoyed your blogs through the years, and I will miss you. Good luck on finding a life you love in Fla.

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  4. Cindi, thank you for being so candid about your life, your finances, your hopes for the future and your thoughts on the past. All of them helped me sort things out in my own life. You have been inspiring!

    I hope you and your husband have the wonderful retirement you envision in a beautiful home in Florida where everyday is special.

    God bless both of you, always.

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  5. We will missss you. You will missssss us :).
    There is nothing that says you cannot start up again once you are settled 🙂
    I am glad you are finally relaxing into the idea that your nest egg does not need to be three million in the bank to live well.
    I have to go extreme in order to get the ducks in a row and move forward. I am not there yet, but I hope to be in a year or two. My spread sheets are all over the place. It my budget has to ebb before it flows.
    Everyone lives these middle last years differently. . It has been fun to see Laura travel, you settle in Florida Barb moving to Texas and Bob just hanging out in AZ. You all are about seven years ahead of me…on vastly different journeys. Finally doing what you want to do without worry of judgement from others— all happy. Two years until Idaho for me!
    I think a house in Florida will be perfect.
    Are you going to sell your Hudson house- or keep renting it out?
    So many hanging questions – lol.

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    • I know Janette. So strange the way things turn out. Florida is only
      Possible when we sell. Looks like we found our forever home. I may come back. My photography site will always be up. People can teach me through there.

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  6. PS- great wedding ring. Mine had to be cut off because I became allergic to it—-35 years ago. Someday we will replace it. I guess the ring isn’t as important as the pick! Yours looks to be a new chapter ring- for both of you.

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  7. Wow! I haven’t been on any blogs lately and saw this just now. I will miss your writing to be honest, but I am very happy for you. I’m glad you got the ring you deserved and you bought yourself a designer handbag and are going to be enjoying a new life in a beautiful home! Very very happy for you!

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  8. Best of LIFE to you, Cindi! I have followed your different blogs for quite a while and will miss your writings, but I do understand. Time to live your life. Ann M

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    • Hi Ann. I wanted to start my new retirement life off right. I bought myself the things I had gone without for so many years. I just felt it was time to arise anew. New wardrobe. New adornments. A new me. Taking her rightful place. I earned it. This is MY time now.
      Thanks for reading my blogs all these years. I appreciate it. 👍💕

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  9. So sorry to see you go. I followed your previous blog as well and although it took me a while to find you again, I’ve been reading ever since. I will miss your postings about financial issues especially. You are one who tells it like it is. My daughter moved down to St. Pete last July and loves it. No chance she will want to come back to the cold midwest again. Enjoy your new life. Diane

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  10. Cindi, I have always enjoyed your blogs with the links you provide, etc. from the perspective and it has helped me quite a lot in thinking ahead (I’m 60/hubby and I are self-employed). I WILL miss your writings and comments. You were meant to share your knowledge with others so they can do the most with what they have. Glad DH received good medical news. Enjoy every day because life is short and we don’t have much time to gladden the hearts of others. You probably won’t reconsider writing even a quarterly blog or something here or there but glad you are keeping the pictures acct. I echo many of the other sentiments expressed. Best Wishes!!
    J

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    • Hi Janet. I did reconsider. I wrote a new post today. What with the stock market falling and the new Coronavirus, I
      Had a few bits of advice to share. I am going to keep my blog up. I’ll write from time to time. I stopped monetizing it because the stress on me was awful.
      Thanks for your kind words. I won’t leave you. 👍

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  11. Cindi, I just checked in and am happy to learn that you will continue. I very much enjoy reading your posts and have learned so much. The ring is stunning! Definitely take time to treat yourself.

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